How to Last Longer in Bed Tonight
Immediate techniques men can use to extend their stamina starting now.
What You Can Do Right Now
You've got somewhere to be tonight, and you want to last longer than you usually do. This isn't about fixing underlying issues or weeks of practice—this is about what you can do today to extend your time.
Here are the immediate tactics that actually work.
Before You Start: Lower the Baseline
Masturbate earlier in the day. For most men, the second orgasm of the day takes longer to achieve than the first. This isn't a myth—it's basic refractory period biology.
Timing matters. Too close to sex and you might have trouble getting aroused. Too far and the effect wears off. A few hours before typically works well.
This isn't sustainable as a long-term strategy, but for tonight, it can help.
Slow the Warm-Up
You don't have to race toward penetration. The longer you spend on foreplay, the more aroused your partner gets, and the less time inside you need to satisfy them.
Focus on their pleasure first. Oral sex, manual stimulation, whatever they enjoy. If they've already had an orgasm before penetration begins, the pressure on you drops significantly.
And while you're focused on them, you're not being stimulated. Your arousal stays manageable while theirs builds.
Breathing Control
When you feel yourself getting close, your breathing probably gets fast and shallow. This actually accelerates ejaculation by keeping your nervous system in high-arousal mode.
Consciously slow your breathing. Deep belly breaths. Exhale longer than you inhale. This activates your parasympathetic nervous system, which calms things down without killing the arousal.
You can do this without your partner noticing. It becomes a subtle tool you use throughout.
The Stop-Start In Practice
When you feel yourself approaching the point of no return, stop. Not slow down—stop completely. Pull out if you need to.
Switch to something else. Kiss them. Go down on them. Touch them. Let your arousal drop from critical levels.
When you feel in control again, resume penetration. You can do this multiple times in a single encounter—each cycle builds the overall duration.
Your partner doesn't need to know you're managing your timing unless you want to tell them. It just looks like you're a considerate lover who varies the experience.
Strategic Position Choices
Different positions offer different levels of stimulation. For tonight, choose positions that give you less intense sensation or more control.
Partner on top means you can lie relatively still while they do the moving. Less muscle engagement means less sympathetic nervous system activation.
Spooning is lower intensity than most positions. The angle doesn't allow for the deep, fast thrusting that tends to accelerate climax.
Missionary with your weight on your elbows gives you control over pace. You can vary between deep slow strokes and shallow quick ones, modulating your arousal.
Avoid positions where you're working hard physically, where the visual is especially arousing to you, or where you can't easily pause or slow down.
The Squeeze Technique
When you feel close, squeeze firmly just below the head of your penis, where the head meets the shaft. Hold for 10-20 seconds.
This disrupts the ejaculatory reflex and buys you more time. You or your partner can do it.
It's not the most elegant move, but it works in a pinch.
Distraction (The Right Way)
The old advice to "think about baseball" is partially right. Distracting yourself from intense physical sensation can delay orgasm.
But completely checking out makes for bad sex. You're not present, and your partner can tell.
Instead, focus on something else in the sexual experience. Notice her breathing. Watch her face. Pay attention to the sounds she's making. This keeps you engaged without fixating on the sensation in your penis.
Another option: focus on giving rather than receiving. Concentrate intensely on what you're doing with your hands, what you're saying, how you're moving to create sensation for her. The shift in attention modulates your own arousal.
Using Condoms Strategically
Condoms reduce sensation. That's sometimes presented as a downside, but tonight it's an advantage.
Thicker condoms reduce more sensation than thin ones. If lasting longer is the goal, don't reach for the ultra-thins.
You can even wear two condoms—no, not at the same time, that increases breakage risk. But changing condoms mid-encounter creates a natural pause and maintains the reduced sensation.
Desensitizing Products
Numbing sprays and creams containing lidocaine or benzocaine are available over the counter. They reduce penile sensitivity, making it harder to climax quickly.
Apply 10-15 minutes before sex. Wipe off any excess so you don't numb your partner.
Start with less than you think you need—too much and you might not feel anything at all, which creates its own problems.
Managing Expectations
Sometimes, despite everything, you'll still come sooner than you wanted. What matters is how you handle it.
Don't treat it as the end. Keep going with fingers, mouth, toys. Make sure your partner's pleasure continues even if your penis is temporarily out of commission.
If you're young enough to have a short refractory period, round two often lasts longer. Stay engaged until you're ready again.
Your attitude matters more than the clock. A confident lover who finishes early but keeps going is far more satisfying than someone who lasts forever but has nothing else to offer.